Military dating is not like dating a civilian. Military members sign their lives over to the government. They have very little choice about when they work, where they live, and how often they can check their phone for messages. This makes military relationships frustrating. They can still be worthwhile and successful, but you have to let go of some of the traditional dating rules. Here are dating rules for military couples.
Dating a guy who goes to a military academy means you’re stuck in a long-distance relationship. You’re lucky if you see him more then four or five times a year. Most of the time, his family is also there.
These boys are busy. Their days start at around 6 am and end at midnight. They may have over 20 credit hours on top of clubs, sports and military duties and about two weeks of summer break.
Everyone expects instant communication, but service members don’t always have their phone or wi-fi. If a service member hasn’t replied to your message, it doesn’t mean they aren’t interested. They could be in formation, in the field, or waiting in line to use the phone.
The possibility of cheating exists in any relationship, but military relationships require extra trust. Yes, military orders and leave dates do change at the last minute. Your service member probably is not lying to you. Yes, during deployment, a service member cannot use their phone and may have wait in line to use the computer. If you see them sign on to an account but they don’t reply to your message, don’t take it personally. Often, the real mistress is simply the military.
Time to Grow
You always have time to explore what makes you happy in life and to build strong relationships. You are able to focus on school or job.
Dating an army boyfriend isn’t always easy. You have to be prepared!