When it comes to first dating etiquette, it’s usually all about trying to take your awesome self up a notch. Not because you have anything to prove, but because first dates are about putting your best self out there.
Words like dating etiquette or manners seem to be relics fantasized about in conversations of courtship and gallantry. But, they don’t have to be.
The truth is that displaying good manners is a necessity in any area of life.
Put your phone away
Unless you’re an on-call doctor or have some position where your phone is absolutely essential, then it belongs nowhere near your date. In an era of constant connectivity and social media overindulgence, one of the best gifts we can give to another human being, is the gift of our undivided attention.
Be on time
The biggest first-date deal-breakers are a bad attitude, bad manners, and being late. Yes, things happen, but you really don’t want to keep your date waiting. If you’re running more than 10 minutes late, be sure to text and keep them posted.
The first date is the place to bring up what you’re expectations are for the future. If you met through online dating, then take the opportunity to talk about why you’re both online and what you hope to gain from it. If you met in person or because you were set up, again, then get straight to the point of what you ideally want to get out of all this dating.
Don’t Be Too Judgmental
It’s important to stick to your standards, but it’s also important to have a open mind. Judging is totally normal, but judging to a point where you’re not even giving your date some slack or the benefit of the doubt is the worst move.
In asking questions, you’re also creating a dialogue. When one person is just going on and on, and there’s no feedback on the other end, things can go south fast.