Dating after divorce is both exhilarating and frightening! On the one hand, the thought of having someone find you attractive and interesting again can make you positively giddy.
Sure your life has been turned upside down and things are a bit different now than when you were raising hell several years ago, but with a few tips and a little gumption you could be in for some really fun times and new loves. Just remember, dating after divorce is not as hard as it may sound.
Make sure you’ve let go of your past relationship
You really don’t want to be taking a whole load of baggage into a new one. Beginning with a clean slate will make everything so much more enjoyable.
Have a clear idea of what you want from dating after divorce
Are you looking for a new partner or for someone to go on occasional dates with? Make this clear in your profile. If you’re looking for long-term commitment, there’s no point in falling for someone who’s looking for a quick fling. It can only end in tears.
Sorry if this is a tough one for those in midlife who appreciate that age is a big thing. It’s hard to go back from lying about your age or showing that you’ve got a full head of hair in a profile picture when reality is very different.
Know your values
The things that are really important to you in life should be reflected in your relationships. This isn’t about a long shopping list of requirements but it’s worth getting some sense of what you hold dear.
Write a great online profile
Spend time writing a great profile that stands out from the crowd, with as few clichés as possible. Be different and don’t be shy.
Check your state of mind
Make sure you’re in the right frame of mind before you head to dating websites. If you have a heavy and disillusioned heart with negative inner dialogue, it’s not the right time to be looking for a mate. Dating after divorce may take a long time.
You never know who you might meet if you can finally avoid looking for or dating what you believe to be ‘your type’. Dare to step out of your comfort zone.
Now that you are more mature and experienced, you know what it is you want. Learn how to filter in exactly what you are looking for. You’ll meet some amazing people.