The woman who is dating a married man lives a life that, for the most part, is shrouded in secrecy. She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together. She is not his wife, she is not mother to his children. Her chance for happiness hinges on a future that is highly uncertain, to say the least.
So if you are dating a married man, there are several hard truths you need to know.
The needs of the many will always outweigh your needs
His family will always come first, and that includes his wife. Simply because he talks in a negative way about his marriage doesn’t mean that his obligations to his wife are any less important to him. He will always feel as if he has to be a husband to her and take care of the marriage, whether he truly loves her or not.
His life with you is secret and always will be
No matter how much you may want to walk in the sunshine with him and have him openly acknowledge his love for you, it won’t happen. While he is more than willing to be your lover and to bring you gifts, he is not about to have you meet his friends and risk having his family find out about you.
No matter how nice a guy he is, you are a temporary diversion for him
This is not an easy statement to comprehend. It’s emotionally painful. Unfortunately it is true. The beginning of an affair is romantic and naughty at the same time. Planning to be together becomes a fascinating game and is thrilling to say the least. The game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he “has to do.”
He will not leave his wife
Less than 5 percent of men leave their wives for the woman with whom they are having an affair. Whether it is because of all the legal and financial problems attached to divorce, religious beliefs or the fact that they have become comfortable with their marriage the way it is. He is still having sex with his wife, no matter what you may want to believe.