There is a lot of taboo that is associated with black women dating. Most young girls grow up fantasizing about dating and marrying someone within their own racial and ethnic group and black girls are no exception. On the other hand, black women are disproportionately attacked on the rare occasions that they do date interracially or interethnically.
If you’re a white man who is interested in black women dating, it’s important to educate yourself on the disagreements that sometimes occurs between interracial couples.
Things to Remember
Be Willing to Talk About Race
Your whiteness – and whiteness in general – plays a huge role in how race relations play out socially and interpersonally. And it continues with understanding that being able to talk about race in a conscientious way is an avenue to showing love toward your partner. Being honest about the ways in which race is complex shows a willingness to engage with a part of your partner’s identity and experience in a way that really holds them.
People Close to You Are Going to Say Racist Things
Whether it’s your lovely family or your friends, sometimes people are going to say or do things that include racist context. And it’s your job – both as the partner and a fellow white person – to say something and educate them. They’re your loved ones, so you probably know what will work best for them. But generally turning their mistake into a teachable moment will be more effective!
Black women dating is hard. And being responsible for the ways in which your whiteness affects the world and your relationship is hard work, too. But it’s harder to be a person of color in a white supremacist world.
And while you can’t change that fact for them, what you can do is work to ensure that your relationship is as safe as possible for them. Because that’s how love works.